I consider myself a mental health advocate, but as a psychology student, I am still learning. Thoughts shared are based on scientific research published by experts as well as my opinions and knowledge from personal experiences.
Whether its a girlfriend/boyfriend kind of situation or a bestie, relationships are such an important of our lives.
When I asked on IG what you guys wanted to see on the blog relating to the realm of psychology, I was surprised to see a lot of questions about relationships, but if even one person out there cares to hear my take on this, I’m here for them.
Opposites Do Not Attract!
This is one of my favorite “common sense” psychology theories to debunk, and I blame rom coms for engraving this idea into our minds. Studies have shown that the greater the similarity the greater the attraction. If you’re trying to pursue something with someone and you share no interests things will eventually fizzle out. Think about it, would you rather spend your time with someone that is constantly opposing you, or with a person that sees through a similar worldview?
Quality over Quantity
Obvi! This is my mantra, especially for friendships. I rather maintain relationships with the people that I have known my entire life than try to connect with strangers. This also goes for the number of people I want to keep close to me, I’m for sure a small circle kind of girl. Like everyone, of course, I’ve met new people that I’ve formed ties with, but I’m very biased to want to hang around the people that I have been able to count on for years.
I also feel like quality over quantity is very important when it comes to time. I rather spend intentional meaningful time with others than have random impromptu plans here and there. Yes, I’m that person that needs 2 months’ notice to have me go anywhere.
In the age of ghosting (friends or romantically) being the norm, for me, the key to any successful relationship is to know your boundaries. If you stand for nothing you’ll fall for anything, I know a lot of people have learned this the hard way.
Nobody is perfect, the fact of the matter is that we should all actively be trying.
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